Reviewed by: BigAl
Approximate word count: 4-6,000 words
Kindle US: YES UK: YES Nook: YES Smashwords: NO Paper: NO
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I’ll cherry pick a few lines from the blurb on Amazon.
“If you are interested in having a wife or girlfriend who is submissive and obedient (no matter how stubborn or disobedient she is now) then the brand new book will show you how.”
“The kind of obedience that has her WANTING to follow your lead, please you, and help you achieve your goals as your ‘helpmate’ -- without any of the nagging, whining, sexual blackmail or usual female ‘drama queen’ nonsense.”
“This ain't for the "politically correct."
“This book is not about being a jerk.”
A friend loaned me this “book” and asked me to review it for my blog. I agreed because I thought it was a prime example of both the good and the bad of the e-book and self-publishing revolution.
In the comments section of one of my other reviews an anonymous poster said, “The best thing about self-publishing is that anyone can do it. The worst thing about self-publishing is that anyone can do it.” Strictly speaking, this book doesn’t appear to be self-published. It indicates it is published by “MakeRight Publishing,” which, based on searches of Amazon and Google, is a service that will format an author’s manuscript for the Kindle and Nook and publish it to various sites for a small fee. Semantics aside, not much different from self-publishing. The comment is still pertinent.
Books like this have always existed although, given the length, it would be more accurate to call the paper equivalent a pamphlet. Pre-internet you’d find this kind of thing for sale in the back of certain magazines. The venue has changed and possibly made those books more visible. This visibility might make them easier to sell, but also makes people aware of their existence. I’m all for letting any theory have voice. Saying so might brand me as too politically correct for the author, but I’m confident that the spotlight of high visibility will kill a bad idea much more quickly than if they are only voiced in dark little corners.
After reading what Belasco has to say I can’t help wondering, was he born too late? He seems to believe that women are second-class citizens, and that a marriage (or any relationship) should be a dictatorship rather than a partnership. This might have worked a hundred or even fifty years ago. For economic reasons it might have made sense for a woman to accept this then, but not anymore. I’m sure it works now with certain women, although no woman I’d be interested in.
On the surface, some of the author’s suggestions make sense. For example, one of the rules he proposes is to, “never reward bad behavior.” That makes sense until you realize that to this author, bad behavior means whatever the man wants at the moment when he wants it. For example, if he’s in the mood for sex and she isn’t, it is “sexual blackmail” and thus unacceptable bad behavior. The next rule, “Never say you’re sorry,” is because to do so would reward bad behavior. He explains, “If you really DO screw up, fine, repent away. But even then, I do not recommend saying you’re sorry, and instead just saying something like I goofed, I shouldn’t have done that, or the infamous mistakes were made.” This strikes me as contradicting his earlier encouragement to “be a leader.” Do half-assed apologies when “mistakes were made” increase confidence in your leader or make them seem weak and not worthy of your respect?
Another complaint I have is that the reader is supposed to believe a statement is true merely because the author says it, with no logical or expert backup. For example, he says some people think that, “If a man wants his wife to be more responsive physically, he should pick up and help keep the place clean.” He calls this ridiculous and says it “does not hold up to reality or logic.” Yet his response boils down to his opinion that it isn’t true. Experts who say otherwise are wrong because “most of the information for the past 30+ years about dealing with women has been doled out by … women.” I love a good conspiracy theory, but I’m not buying this one.
Just as with anything good, taken too far, good can become bad. This goes for political correctness at its most extreme, but not for most instances of political correctness. Earlier today, I saw an internet forum post that struck me as saying exactly what I wanted to say. The poster, who uses the handle ginmar, said many people talk about political correctness as if it is “some huge new form of cultural cowardice. It’s not. It’s what your mom called being polite – and not being a bully.” Just as slaves were freed many years ago, women are now in a position to choose not to stay with a jerk.
Protestations aside, yes, this book is about being a jerk.
Relative to its size, this book has too many typos. (Roughly the same number I would find acceptable in a novel ten or more times as long.)
Rating: * 1 star